Winter Solstice: the day of the longest night

Labyrinth of Light
Uncertainty breeds fear.
Fear leads to a closed heart.
A closed heart finds ways to reject goodness.
Goodness reminds that day comes after night,
even if that night is the longest of the day.

This is the Winter Solstice. The dark and the light, but mostly the dark. Especially during that time of night—that all-too-predictable time of night—when the mind, coming to rest, suddenly remembers all it had been avoiding all day.

Yet, this avoidance. Key, really, to survival.

So life comes rushing back in. All of it, layered upon itself like so many bed sheets during a snowfall. This is the moment one names “depression.” You and I have it, sometimes more frequently than others, and most often when the sun grows cold.

The hibernating mind

There are casualties in this war of the mind. If you are lucky, the casualties are merely your memories. But more often than not, they are the memories of others, too, because you are undoubtedly someone loved and wanted and missed. Do you believe this? You should.

Because when the darkness comes, instinctively we seek to minimize damage. So we hole up and hibernate until spring like great big lumbering bears. Our body temperature drops and our breathing rate slows down. We are extremely difficult to awaken.

All hibernation is is an adaptation to a shortage of “food.”

The Black Bear is what is known as a “super hibernator.” These bears do not need to wake up to eat, drink or eliminate. Their waste is actually recycled and broken down into nitrogen, which is used to build protein and maintain muscle mass while asleep.

This is at once disgusting and incredibly impressive.

So, wake up

The more I sit with my past struggles with sadness, the more I realize it all stems from uncertainty.

And yet, in those moments, how certain we are that they will never end.

Depression, rather than a state to avoid, is an acknowledgment of the dark in us all. By contrast, the light is so much brighter. But if uncertainty is allowed to rule, then life becomes cloudy and dense, hugging itself like wet snowflakes dampening the sidewalk. Momentarily, a path is obscured. The allure of fresh tracks is strong because we feel as if we are the first to ever walk this snowy trail, and the crunch underfoot is satisfying because we are the only one around to hear it.

And in a way, we’re right. We are the only one in that moment to walk exactly as we are in that space. But remember: An inanimate shovel can do the same thing, if only it is pushed.

There is no “alone” when it comes to the dark. There is only the idea of dark, and whether or not we choose to be certain about it. Then, when we are certain, the beauty of the Winter Solstice reminds us light has come again.

Even Black Bears need to wake up.

Photo: Tavis Ford

Like attracts like

Converse-love
It’s rare when someone you’ve known for less than two hours suddenly clarifies a part of your soul you couldn’t quite describe on your own. This happens as infrequently as the full lunar eclipse that you woke up to see, but couldn’t because the city got in your way.

These moments are worth paying attention to. Like the first time you held your new puppy or told your boyfriend you were falling in love with him. Or when you gave away all your secrets and didn’t care who listened.

But this time is different. This time, there are no secrets. They’ve all been discovered by an unknowable known: this new person you’ve just met.

These moments are worth every time someone walked out of your life because they didn’t know how to define you. Or because they had defined you as something you weren’t, and never could be, for them.

But the heart knows this game. It’s been signed up for this gig before, has learned to simultaneously resist and welcome this change of pace: this moment when you realize that you are not alone and never were.

So when someone comes along who can awaken the portion of you that lies dormant—no matter how much you meditate or occupy your yoga mat—this is someone who, by no accident, deserves special attention.

How do you discover such a person?

Be this person for other people.

Photo: Kerekes János Csongor

10 modern yoga craft projects on a budget

Whoever said the recession is over isn’t a yoga teacher.

If it weren’t for my Lucy PRO discount (yoga instructor? Become a LucyPRO here), I’d be looking decidedly more ragged. In fact, until a couple months ago I taught (and practiced) in the same two pairs of pants and three shirts for two years. And with proper care, my Jade Yoga Mat is still going strong. It helps, too, if you have a crafty mom who makes you eye pillows.

But it doesn’t have to cost a fortune to outfit yourself or your space with yoga style. I went searching for how-tos, and despite the proliferation of “yoga pants from old t-shirts,” I persevered with these modern, do it yourself yoga craft projects that save some bank.

P.S. Where are all you fabulous yoga crafters and your yoga crafts? These projects, although great, are collecting Internet dust!

1. Marimekko Yoga Mat Bag

This do-it-yourself yoga bag is exactly my aesthetic; now, if only I had inherited my mom’s sewing gene. In 10 steps and with a sewing machine you’ll be crafting your way to a handmade yoga bag that will have everyone asking you where you bought it. This looks simple enough that even I could do it, genetics or not.

2. Antibacterial Yoga Mat Spray

I’m 90% on my way to this simple spray, just need to stock up on some eucalyptus essential oil. For tea tree oil, I prefer the organic kind from Desert Essence. The company is the largest supplier of tea tree oil, which coincidentally, my doctor tells me, is good for treating the eczema on my fingers (too much information).

3. Yoga Mat Strap

So easy. So quick. So cute.Amy Butler Yoga Bag Craft

4. Nigella Yoga Mat Bag by Amy Butler [PDF]

Oh, Amy Butler. I’m in love with your “Midwest Modern” fabrics, and not just because I grew up in Ohio, but also because you put them to use in this yoga mat bag pattern. The PDF includes instructions, pattern pieces and measurements. If you sew this, make me an extra?

Amy Butler Love Fabric Wall Art5. Love and Peace Wall Art [PDF]

I’m a huge fan of fabric wall art, mostly because cutting fabric? Cutting fabric I can do. I’m thinking these panels would look great above my bed, which already is covered by Amy Butler’s water bouquet in midnight fabric duvet.

6. McCall’s, Simplicity and Kwik Sew Yoga Clothing Patterns

Seriously, who knew that back when my mom was sifting through McCall’s patterns for my Halloween costumes, she could have been making yoga clothes instead? The website that rounded up these patterns warns they may be out of print, but it’s nothing a trip to eBay won’t fix. Most all of these patterns look like they could make it in our modern times, except for the last two. Unless you totally want to rock the ’80s.

7. 50 Ways to Reuse Your Yoga Mat

I’ve got my first yoga mat (a Gaiam, coincidentally) rotting in a spare bedroom, but am considering one of the fine options in this list from Gaiam.com. So far, #6 (donate to an animal shelter) is winning out. Definitely not #15 (cut it up to make mouse pads). Do people really do that?

8. Cozy Eye Pillows

Most yoga eye pillows are square-shaped – not this pattern from Better Homes & Gardens. The pillows can also be cooled in the freezer or warmed in the microwave for a luxe relaxation during your savasana.

9. Dog Leash Turned Yoga Tote

That Martha – she’s always finding bizarre uses for seemingly unrelated things – like dog leashes and yoga mats. This is less of a DIY and more of a: grab or buy a cute dog leash and use it to roll up your yoga mat. Clever, especially if you don’t have a dog that goes insane every time she sees her leash.

10. Yoga Cookie Cutters

The amateur baker in me loves this idea, which I am apparently quite behind the times on since thekitchen.com featured these cookie cutters in 2009. The tin cutters include Plow, Tree, Warrior I, Lotus, Down Dog and more. Or you could skip the DIY and buy the Gingerbread Yoga People Cookies from Baked Ideas.

Nov. 7 #omchat: Street Yoga and yoga for service

Street Yoga

Some of the most life-changing organizations have come from inconspicuous starts. Apple started in a garage. Amnesty International was founded following an article published in The Observer, UK’s Sunday newspaper.

Street Yoga, a non-profit whose mission is to help struggling youth and their families overcome early-life traumas, began when its founder Mark Lilly organized a yoga class at a shelter and school serving homeless youth.

All it takes is a seed of an idea to change the world – whether through electronics, the media or teaching yoga for service.

I’m proud to announce that Street Yoga will be joining #omchat on Nov. 7 at 9 p.m. EST/ 6 p.m. PST to talk about how their yoga activism is “changing lives, one breath at a time” of youth across the nation.

Street Yoga comes to Denver

From relatively small beginnings, Street Yoga hired its first staff member in 2008 and grew from a grassroots organization into a non-profit. Street Yoga offers a 16-hour weekend teacher training program that prepares yoga teachers, school teachers and social workers to work with youth. So far in 2011, they have trained more than 500 yoga teachers to teach yoga to youth in social service environments, from Portland to Tucson and New York to Belfast. And in 2012, they’re coming to Denver.

The weekend workshop is $290, and Denver’s Eliot Street Studio is set to host a training. However, any yoga studio can choose to host the workshop. Plus, if you co-sponsor (donate the space, time and advertise), Street Yoga will give a full scholarship to give to one of the studio’s teachers or divide up among several.

After the training, it’s up to the individual instructor to incorporate or spread what they’ve learned into the community. “We provide the language and the mindset of going into social service sites,” Alice Noyes, communications manager for Street Yoga. “Since we are small, we aren’t able to provide programming in all the cities, but it’s something we’re exploring how to do sustainably.”

Join Street Yoga for #omchat

To join us for the chat, log in to the Tweet Chat room with your Twitter account here. Street Yoga’s Executive Director Rachel Sample and Alice will be manning (womanning?) the @StreetYoga account. Be sure to follow them and @omchat, which I’ll be tweeting from.

Then, type your tweets into the chat box. No need to add “#omchat” to the end of your tweets if you’re in the Tweet Chat room – it happens automatically.

Bring your questions for Street Yoga, plus be prepared to chat about how you, too, use yoga to serve your community. See you then!

Photo: Street Yoga

Yoga teacher Lisa Schlelein: On trusting the Universe

Denver yoga teacher Lisa SchleleinWhen you meet someone who lives in the now, two things happen. The first is that you, too, get pulled into the now. The second is that you begin plotting how to keep that feeling after they leave. If you’ve met Denver yoga teacher Lisa Schlelein, you know exactly what I mean.

Lisa has an uncanny ability to speak her truth no matter who’s looking and no matter the situation. And the key is simple: trust, completely, that in every moment the Universe is conspiring to bring us everything we need.

Lisa was one of my teachers during my yoga teacher training two years ago, and I continue to frequent her classes today. She’s taught at Om Time, Core Power, Rishi’s Crossing, Samadhi Center for Yoga, Spiral Yoga & Wellness Center, and at one time was teaching 15 classes a week. Now, the full-time yoga teacher calls Karma Yoga Center home.

But 11 years ago, she was just getting started. This is her story—how she came to yoga, found love and met her guru, all by trusting the Universe.

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It’s 2000 and Lisa is living in San Francisco when a coworker suggests she attend a Bikram yoga class. “It was the hardest thing I’d ever done in my entire life,” she says. “I’d always worked out, but I was sore in places I didn’t know existed!” The instructor told her to make sure she came back the next day to work out the soreness. Lisa did. And she was hooked.

“I started getting up at 6 a.m. to practice. I wanted to eat all the things that were good for me. It was a huge shift. My body changed and my mentality changed. I felt wrung out from the inside out,” she tells me on a couch at Gypsy House on 13th in Capitol Hill.

After a solo European trek and a surfing stint on the shores of Santa Cruz, Lisa landed in Denver and began cleaning the Core Power on Grant studio in exchange for yoga. By day she worked at a doctor’s office, where she was often told she’d done something wrong; at night, she’d hop on her mat and be told that everything she was doing was right.

And then she took a class with Denver-teacher Angelique de Silva, who, unlike other teachers Lisa had previously practiced with, spoke in Sanskrit. “I’ve always been someone who enjoys challenges and the challenge of the heat in yoga class was what I thought it was, but once I heard her talk about Sanskrit I thought, ‘What is that?’” Lisa soon followed Angelique’s classes to Samadhi.

It was 2005. Within two years, after cleaning Samadhi in exchange for yoga and eavesdropping on countless teacher trainings, Lisa applied to be a yoga teacher.

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There are 10 of us piled into a big white van that we littered with prayer flags and magnets that read “Peace” and “Save the world.” We’re coming back from Enchanted Tadasana, a yoga, hiking and music retreat in Wyoming that Lisa and Katrina Gustafson, owner of Karma Yoga Center, put together last August. As yogis do, we got to talking about love – romantic love or lack thereof.

Lisa was at the wheel, headed down I-25 in northern Colorado, when she matter-of-factly stated that she’d meditated for 40 days to bring love into her life. After spending years comfortable being by herself and not in a relationship, she decided she wanted to experience herself in a relationship. “I wrote down everything I wanted in a partner, and then, no matter what I was doing, I made time every day to chant Aham Prema [ah-hum pray-mah]” which means I am divine love.

She did this for 40 days. Three months later, Aaron, her boyfriend, came into her life.

When Lisa tells this story, you get the sense that she doesn’t feel like she’s a miracle worker for having called love into her life. Instead, you see a glimpse of the dedication she brings to any endeavor, and an utterly disarming and complete trust that the universe will indeed provide, as long as you intend it.

“You put out intentions and you have to wait for them to be fulfilled,” she says. “It gives me more reason to love what I’m doing now, until it changes, because I know it will. If [yoga] is really done to the heart of what it’s intended to be, it can transform everything.”

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Between bites of egg sandwich at Gypsy House, Lisa tells me how she determines who to adjust in her classes.

“There’s a fine line between helping people along their path, giving them guidance and letting them guide themselves,” she says. “I’ll look at somebody and if they’re following what I say, I’ll go over and help them. If they resist right away, I’ll just hold their leg or touch the back of their heart. So much gets said in all that, the gesture. Words can mess a lot of things up, people can hear a lot of things in words, but gestures are easier to understand.”

When Lisa speaks, her hands are always involved, even now as she extends her palm to me to demonstrate. It’s something that I’ve had to work at since becoming a yoga teacher. As a writer, I fall easily into words and continually remind myself to be more hands on. And then Lisa reminds me “sometimes we look to others and want to do ‘that thing,’ but ‘that thing’ may not be what’s yours,” and I feel like myself again.

She makes teaching yoga look effortless and it’s because she’s put in the time. After graduating from Samadhi’s teacher training, she was offered a 7:30 p.m. Thursday class right away. “The universe just opened up. Things started falling in my lap.  I started subbing like crazy and teaching as much as I could to the point where I was working full time and teaching full time,” she says. “It went full on from day one because I just kept saying yes.” She pauses, “I have a tendency to take on too much and burn myself out.”

Nearly a decade after her first Bikram class and a year after her teacher training, Lisa opened up to her own self-adjustment. “I remember distinctly the night I was sitting at an intersection on my way to class and all of a sudden I wasn’t stoked about being in my class. I was worn out from my schedule. I was sitting at a red light and something has to give, and it’s not gonna be yoga.

“And so I put in my notice.”

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When the student is ready for the teacher, the teacher will appear, or so the conventional wisdom goes. Until this year, Lisa’s teachers were found in the library and on the mat – her yoga books and her students.

“Everybody around me was finding teachers, going to Shiva Rea, Baron Baptiste, Seane Corn, Saul David Raye… I would go to Yoga Journal conferences and study with these teachers, and they’re great, but I would usually leave feeling like a round peg trying to fit into a square hole,” she says. “I was kinda lost for a while – I thought, who’s going to inspire me and be my guru?”

“But there are teachers, I believe, everywhere, which is why I hadn’t found anybody like Rod until recently.” Lisa discovered Rod Stryker through his Aspen, Colo., Energetics of Sequencing workshop. Rod Stryker teaches ParaYoga, “para” meaning “supreme, ancient, highest, the culmination of all effort.”

After Lisa realized Rod’s teacher started the Himalayan Institute (all her favorite books are published by them) she got the feeling that this may be her teacher. “Just the minute I saw him… well I was coming out of the bathroom and he was going into the classroom. It felt natural and meant to be. He said he could tell I was happy to be there because he could see my glow.”

Which just goes to show that finding a teacher doesn’t have to be glamorous. And that, yes, you’ll still know when it’s right.

I attended Lisa’s Sunday class after she returned from the workshop. There was something different in her guidance – it was electric, right from the start. I felt the energy of each pose. I was the energy of each pose. And I didn’t need to be soaked in sweat to do it. “The whole idea behind the workshop was to figure out the energy behind the postures rather than doing them to do them,” Lisa tells me now. “Some yoga teachers think, ‘Let’s make it as hard as possible and when the people fall down we’ve done our job.’ I’d never heard anyone [Rod] talk about asana like this, to make the class as effective as it can be and as transforming as it can be.”

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It’s only after our get together at Gypsy House, after I get home and begin poring over our chat, that the quote surfaces in my mind:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us… As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others!” —Marianne Williamson, author of A Return to Love

We are all timid, sometimes, when it comes to sharing our gifts. Lisa readily admits she often needed a nudge in order to take the next step in her yoga journey, or encouragement to play her flute or chant during savasana (staples, now, of her teaching).

“I was always doing [these things] in my world but scared to share them with my students,” she says. “Now, in my public classes, I don’t know if that’s up to me to decide. I want to give it and you decide whether you want to take it or not. If you don’t want to chant to Kali, it shouldn’t stop me from chanting to Kali.”

Self doubt is at the root of withholding. But, as yoga teachers, we withhold because we’re worried that those things that mean so much to us may not mean as much to our students. So we trap them inside until someone gives us permission to shine, or until passion forces them to the surface.

Then, when we do open up and continue to live our lives with open-hearted trust — oh, how the universe provides.

“My dad always said to me, ‘Find what you love and do that,’” says Lisa. “It blows my mind that teaching yoga supports my lifestyle. I am so very grateful.”

At a glimpse

Favorite Sanskrit word: ananda
I became a yoga teacher because I… felt it in my heart.
5 adjectives to describe your class: (I hope it comes across this way!) informative, challenging, fun, cleansing, full
5 adjectives to describe you: focused, fun loving, laidback, interested, adventurous
Pose that makes you feel free: Handstand
Pose that’s challenging: Hanumansana
3 teachers who are important to you: my dad Bill, Rod Stryker, Dr. Lester Miller, the rheumatologist in Santa Cruz I once worked for (Hm, they’re all guys!)
Favorite music to play in class: Anymore it’s ambient music. Music that sets a mood and a tone but that isn’t overpowering or doesn’t become the mood.

Note: This is the first in a series highlighting Denver’s talented yoga teachers who have also inspired my own practice.